E is for empathy

Empathy is defined as::::  

1. Identification with and understanding of another’s situation, feelings, and motives.
2. The attribution of one’s own feelings to an object.

I am just at a point where I don’t understand it anymore.  Empathy really isn’t the word, I am looking for but it was the closest thing that started with an E. So it is used here on out in the following way:::: “Empathy” is synonymous with sympathy, understanding, an attempt to relate to another individual and their actions.

There has been a total lack of empathy in the following ways::

1. Starting Arguments for the sake of being a bitch does not show empathy.
2. Making fun of something someone who is trying very hard to change does not show empathy.
3. Treating people differently does not show empathy.
4. With that, showing favoritism towards others and blatant distain for some does not show empathy.
5. Showing blatant distain for someone who is desperately seeking your approval does not show empathy.
6. Forcing someone to deal with constant put downs at a time when they need the rallied support of those close to them the most, does not show empathy.
7. Judging someone based on secondhand knowledge from a rumor mill does not show empathy.
8. Being two-faced and fake does not show empathy.
9. Lying does not show empathy.
10. Making everything a constant competition to prove your control over ones life does not show empathy.

God never gives us anything we can’t handle, I life full of un-empathetic people can be dealt with, but god gives us friends and family for the purposes of support, companionship, and unconditional love.  Support IS empathetic.  Companionship IS empathetic.  Unconditional love IS empathetic.  

You cannot pretend to be empathetic. Pretending to be empathetic IS NOT empathetic.  Mission Failed.

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Life in the Fast Lane:::::

I realize I have neglected my blog for quite a while.  Well life has been completely hectic with the move and all.  I apologize.

Stephen and I are setled back into to life in Hometown, USA. (aka. Carmel).  Its nice to be back. There are so many things I miss about Boston, but you just can’t beat comming home.

I miss no children in church, I miss no mosquitos, I miss taking the T, I miss my Friends, I miss Comcast Cable, and I miss my View.  But I am slowly getting used to not having that. It will take some time to adjust, but I leave for Michigan soon.  I am just in this place right now where I don’t feel like there is a place I belong, sort of homeless.

School-

As I am sure you all know by now, I am going to Andrews University in Michigan to finish my schooling.  I have just a few classes left before starting my Masters.  It is located 2 1/2 hours north on US 31.  So it is closer… not close… but closer.  I have a roommate, Catie Wolfer (i think), won’t that be a blast! ha, I am not looking forward to it, but its the way life goes.  I do my best to make the most out of every situation. Thats all you can do.  They say ‘experience is what happens when things don’t go the way you want’.  Well I am one of the most experienced people I know.  But things are finally falling into place, I am happy with where life is headed and I can’t wait for what is next.

Carmel-

One of my best friends from High School is moving back really soon! I am super excited about that. And I finally have the time to see everyone I have missed for the last 3 years.  All my peeps from CHS, SLDM, 4H, ICC, CRC and the works… 

 

Stephen-

Stephen is doing well.  His transfer from Boston to Indianapolis feel through, he ended up with a really crappy deal.  Fortunately we have made the most of it and he recently secured an awesome new job.  He is back working as a Mechanic and loving it, Its great pay, a great commission, and a great group of guys.  He really enjoyed his first day and it was nice to see him happy with the way things are going, there for a few weeks he was working his crappy transfer job, and I really felt awful for him.

He is still planning on joining the Army in the next couple Months.  He continues to loose weight.  He isn’t getting a lot of support here at home, and it has taken its toll.  His weight loss rate has slowed substantially but any progress is progress.  I always celebrate the little victories in life, and this is no different.  If you get a chance to say a prayer for him he could really use it.  Life is a little difficult right now, but he is making the best of the situation he has been dealt.  Thats all anyone can ask for.  He knows I love and support him no matter what, and we will make it through this together like we always have.

He just joined the Knights of Columbus at church, and really enjoyed getting to know that group of guys, and is in the process of joining the Masonic lodge that his grandpa belonged to.  Its another goal he has had for a while that he can cross off of his list.  He loves getting out and socializing with people, and I am not that kind of person really.  So this is great for him, I can’t go (I don’t really want to) and he gets to network with other men from all over central Indiana.  He is really excited about it, and I love that it is working out.

Expect 2 more blogs from me right away… more specific.  I will re-join my Alphabet series as well.

Later Ya’ll-

Aliy

 

 

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